Implementation of character education in parenting for working parents working
ICETA 8 || 8th International Conference on Educational Technology of Adi Buana Surabaya 29 Oktober 2016 || ISBN: 978-979-8559-98-3 Penerbit : University of PGRI Adi Buana Surabaya Penulis 1: Aisyah Penulis 2: Isabella Hasiana
Humans are social creatures who will not be detached to connect with others. The entwined relationship especially between men and women can be continued up to the level of our wedding so awarded. The child is the gift we have guided and point him to grow and develop into an individual character.
Character education is education that develops the character values that they have value and character as the character himself, applying these values in the life of himself as a member of society. This research is qualitative research with five subjects, namely early childhood with a background of parents who work. The results of this research it can be concluded that keep paying attention to the education of the children character since considers that basic education was of early childhood. So in this case the child is expected to have and behave with a measure of good and bad based on provisions and ordinances of society or religion.
Keywords: character education, parenting, parents who work, early childhood
My name is Aisyah. I am a female. I am born was 1974, 05 December in Surabaya. I am work as a lecturer in Early Childhood Education, the Faculty of Education of PGRI Adi Buana Surabaya University.
My name is Isabella Hasiana. I am a female. I am born was 1980, 16 October in Surabaya. I am work as a lecturer in Early Childhood Education, the Faculty of Education of PGRI Adi Buana Surabaya University
The family as the primary and the first institution in support of the process of growing flower children from an early age ((Geertz in http://download.portalgaruda.org/article.php?article=136480&val=5663&title=POTENSI%20KELUARGA%20DALAM%20PENDIDIKAN%20HOLISTIK%20%20BERBASIS%20KARAKTER%20PADA%20ANAK%20USIA%20DINI). Ki Hajar Dewantara (2004) explain the importance of the family in child development help because children still do not have a specific character, does not yet have a fixed form of the soul, and it still is global. The young child received the influence of the environment that will form the basis for their development.
Parenting in the family has two basic tasks, namely to develop character and competence. Early childhood education should be done holistically. Early stimulation provided by the families against children aims to accelerate or enhance his progress accurately shaped auditif stimulation, visual or tactile.
The results showed that the family can potentially develop character through the bonds of strong emotions among parents and children, parents parenting principles which determine the development of the next character.
Character education is a term that is increasingly getting attention at this time. Responsibility in educating the child surely cannot be delegated entirely to the school. Indeed essentially the responsibility of education done in the association between educators and students in a situation of education contained in the household, school or community. However, the educational process in this case give priority to the education of parents, mothers and parents who became very influential towards the education of his sons, so expect a child is able to have potential and proactive in view of life in accordance with the values of the characters.
Preschool is the age of vulnerable child. At this ages, children have imitated against anything he saw. The family is the first and main environment for children who have a very big influence. The parent is the first and principal educators for their children. From their parents, children has first received education. Parents or mothers and fathers holds a very important and very influential over the education of his children. Hurlock (1998) revealed that the people who are important to the child are parents, teachers and peers because they know the children of something good and not good. Education within the family is good and true, it will be very influential in the development and formation of his character.
Good parenting for child characters formation is parenting parents who prioritize the interests of the child, but the parents who also control the child. Consciously or not, is accepted with full heart, parents can’t eluding that responsibility because the son is a gift from God and need to be instilled about character values since aerly childhood. (//alfiyah90.wordpress.com/2012/11/30/peran-orang-tua-dalam-membentuk-karakter-anak/.)
The golden age is the golden age of a child and is a time when children have a lot of potential for development. At this stage of the highly precise time to instill the values of kindness, character, who is expected to be able to form his personality.
So that’s the importance of early childhood education done in maximizing the capabilities and potential of children. Utilizing the golden age as the time coaching, direction, supervision and the establishment of the children’s character from an early age. With character education at early stages, the expectation in the future children will be able to become a human personality well so beneficial to himself or the community, the nation and the State.
However, at the time of modernization is currently makin many families experience changes in fundamentals (Lickona in Saptono, 2011:23). This is due to the demands of the job so many families who have little time for the continuation of the close encounter between father, mother and children. Because often new parents got off work while his son was already a good night and went to work while the child still be lulled dreams. In fact, more families are due to the demands of the fulfillment of the necessities of life, chose not to live in one House, but rather the distant place of residence between the father, the mother and child. Not to mention the more problematic family: not harmonious, there a variety of domestic violence even divorce.
In other words, it can be concluded that the more families that could not function as the best place for the kids to get an education character, but at least the family function remains to be returned to its original function, i.e. basic education that starts from the family.
Character education will take place in vain, whereas there is no participation of the elderly in expanding it. Character education a greater emphasis on the habits of the child to do things that are positive. Customs is what will then become a strong imprint and embedded in the psyche of the child. Here are the values character education that can be trained from an early age, namely: 1). Religious; 2). Honest; 3). Tolerance; 4). Discipline; 5). Hard Work; 6). Creative; 7). Independence; 8). Democratic; 9). Curiosity; 10). The spirit of the nationality; 11). Love the motherland; 12). To appreciate the achievements; 13). Communicative or Firendly; 14). Love of peace; 15). Like to read; 16) Care for the environment; 17). Social Care; 18). Responsibility
Based on the background of the above, the purpose of this research is to know the role of parents in developing character education at the early childhood especially for the parents who work.
The character is the nature or characteristics of the psychological, moral, or manners that distinguish a person from another; in behaviour; character. So it can be said that the character is a way of thinking and behaving that became the hallmark of every individual to life and worked together, both in the family environment, society, nation, and State. Individuals who are of good characters are individuals who can make a decision and is ready to acount for each result of the decisions that he made.
Character education can also be described as character education, namely involving aspects of knowledge (feeling) and action.
As for the goal of character education are: a. Encourage habits and behaviours learners are commendable and in line with the universal values and cultural traditions of the nation religious; b. Enhancing the ability to avoid the deplorable traits that can can ruin oneself, others and the environment; c. Fostering kink and sensitivity the learners towards the situation around so that it doesn’t fall into a distorted behavior both in individual and social; d. Instill leadership and responsibilities of the learner as a successor to the nation.
Observe the variety of problems that occur in the community especially with regard to early childhood, then character education in Indonesian has developed into several grades. There are eighteen values character education, namely: (1) religious, attitudes and behaviours that comply in carrying out the teaching of the religion adhered,tolerant of other faiths, execution and life get along well with other religions; (2) To be honest, the behavior is based on the efforts made to assert himself as the man who can always be trusted in the word, action, and employment; (3) Tolerance, the attitude of action who appreciate the difference of religion, tribe, ethnicity, of opinions, attitudes, and actions of others different from him; (4) the discilpine, actions that indicate the behavior of orderly and obedient at the various provisions and regulations; (5) the hard work, the behavior that shows an earnest effort in overcoming the various barriers to learning and assignments, as well as a job as well as possible; (6) creative, think and do something to generate new results or from something that has owned; (7) independent, attitude and behaviour that is not easily rely on others in completing tasks; (8) democratic, how to think, behave, and act the same rate that the rights and obligations of himself and others; (9)curiosity, attitudes and actions which always strive to know more profound and pervasive than anything he had learned, seen and heard; (10) the spirit of nationhood, ways of thinking, acting and insightful that puts the interests of the nation and the country above the interests of himself and his group; (11) love the motherland, how to think, act and do that show of loyalty, caring, and appreciation toward the language, the physical enviroenment, social, culture, economy, and politics of the nation; (12) value the achievement, attitudes, and actions that encourage him to produce something useful for the community, and recognizing and respecting the success of others; (13) Friendly or communicative action, which shows a sense of love to talk, hang out, and working with others; (14) peace loving, attitudes, words and actions that cause others to feel happy and secure over the presence of himself; (15) like to reading, has a habit of providing time to read the various readings which give virtue for him; (16) care for the environment, attitudes and actions that are always working to prevent damage to the surrounding natural environment, and developing efforts to repair the damage that has already occured; (17) Social Care, attitudes and actions that always want to give help to other people and communities in need; (18) responsibility, attitude and behavior of a person to perform the duites and obligations, which sholud be done to the self, society, environment (natural, social and cultural), country and God.
Eighteen values character education above these is the result of the development of character education in Indonesia which began to be applied at the rate of early childhood education until College. It is intended, so that the younger generation have positive characters and will ultimately bring the advancement of the nation and the country and certainly requires a great role of parents especially associated with his care.
Parenting is believed to have an impact on the development of the individual. According to Baumrind (Santrock, 2003) there are three kindsmof parenting, namely democratic, authoritarian adn permissive.
Democratic parenting is parenting that prioritize the interests of the child, but does not hesitate in controlling them. Parents with this behavior being rational, underlying his actions were always in the ratio or thoughts. This type of parents also be realistic against the ability of the child, did not wish to overload that goes beyond the ability of the child. the parents of this type also gives freedom to the child to select and perform an action and his approach to the tepid nature. (Petranto, 2005).
Parenting is instead likely to set standarts that are absolutely must be followed, usually coupled with threats e.g., if do not want to eat, then it will not talk to. The parents of this type tend to be pushy, reign and punish. If the child does not want to do what is said by parents, then parents of this type did not hesitate to punish the child. This type of parent also knows no compromise and communicate usually one way direction (Petranto, 2005).
This parenting allows his son to do something without sufficient oversight. They tend not to admonish the child if the child warned/being in danger and very little guidance provided by them, so it is often preferred by children (Petranto, 2005). For example, children who entered the room without knocking on the door of elderly people left alone, naked from the shower is left for granted without letting children see, rebuked the image which is not feasible for small children, with consideration of the child was a child. Actually, parents who aplly parenting like this just do not want a conflict with his son (Debri, 2008).
Early childhood in general are children under 6 years (Law of Sisdiknas, 2003) and some of expert education give the limit of age is 0-8. Early childhood can also be defined as agroup of children who are in the process of growth and development that is unique.They have a pattern of growth and development of the specialized according to thelevel of growth and development (Mansur, 2005).
Early childhood period often referred to with the term “golden age”. At this time almost all potensials of children is sensitive to grow and develop in a fast and very good. This can we see from the children often ask about what they see. When children question unanswered, then they will keep asking until the child knows the meaning.
This study used a qualitative approach in the form of case studies. According to Punch (in Poerwandari, 1998), a case study is special phenomenon that that is present in a limited context, although the boundaries between phenomenon and context are not entirely clear.
The qualitative approach is a process of research and understanding based on methodologies that investigating a phenomnenon of social and human problems. On this approacch, researcher made a complex picture, examining the words, a deatiled report of the views of respondents, and conduct studies on a natural situation. (Creswell, 1998).
Research procedures performed starting from: a) the planning, b) initiated the collection of basic data, c) more intensive data collection, d) closing the data collection was conducted after reaserchers got all needed information, e) complete, done to improve the results of data analysis and devise ways of serving it.
In this study a number of characteristics determined for the subject, among others, i.e. a family member (mom-dad), a company based in the region of sidoarjo-surabaya. The subjects who were selected based on informant interviewees or childcare (taken cara of Grandma take care of with respect to child care-taken care of by mother).
Data collection techniques used in this research is the observation and interview. The interview was done informally structured to parents of early childhood.
Data analysis used in this research is divided in 3 stages; namely (1) the reduction of data; (2) presentation of data; (3) the withdrawal of the summary.
Implementation of character education in terms of patterns of caregiving is done by Grandma
Patterns of parenting in every family is different. But there is a trend of families (parents) have a high awareness of the importance of character education from an early age. Children are taken care of by one of the parents (mother not working) more direct the child to guide children’s curiosity and also give you freedom to choose on the child and acted independently but still controlling towards children’s behavior.
Children are taken care of by grandma, tend to use standars attitudes and behavior that are stiff, emphasizing compliance, traditions as well as maintain order and lack of communication. Children are doing outside of the rules that apply are considered naughty and not conforming.
Character education which emphasised has still not completly. Older people tend to apply democratic parenting. They liberate their children to do whatever they want the original accountable properly. The parents and grandmother cooperatie in providing the right kind of parenting to the child. The rules are apllied are always discussed to the child. For example, rules about polite words speak to older people, accustomed to a life of discipline, namely the existence of hours to learn and play. Beside his parents and grandmother are also applying the values of character is primarily about religious values. Because religious attitude is the basis in the weaves of interaction with others.
Implementation of character education in terms of patterns of caregiving is done on day care.
On the family both parents working and caregiving was turned over to child care, parents tend to aplly a democratic parenting pattern. The rules are made at home also applies at the time the child in care. Although children are in day care, parents always communicate with caregivers in care and a commitment to always implement character education in parenting. This is so that children feel confused in the following regulations are apllied. In addition, parents have the principle that the cultivation of the character education should be done from an early age. This is because when thechild is still in an early age, then the parents will easily teach the values of the character which certainly will have an impact on the child as she ages.
The character values that are developed are also taught to children. Parents and carers in care do conditioning method in the character to inculcate children.
Implementation of character education in terms of patterns of caregiving is done by mothers who work at home
Parenting is done tends towards permissive. This parenting style is usually done by parents who are too good, tend to give much freedom to children by accepting and know all the behaviors, actions and demans, but less demanding attitude of responsibility and regularity of child behavior. Older people have the idea that their kids were little so that cultivation of the character education they think can be done at a time when kids have entered adulthood.
The cultivation of the values of the character also has still not carried out fully. It is also a given that parents assume the child was a girl and not yet fully should be forced to do that right in accordance with the applicable rules. But parents have the principle that although children freed in doing anything, the child must still respect to older people and run his religious worship with full responsibility. Other things outside of it, parents allow children to behave and be free.
Character education in the family basically became a necessity. Because family is the foundation of the first education in the life of every human being. So the character education will be effective when applied since early childhood through conditioning. For example, children cradle conditioned to speak with polite words with anyone, obey parents, clean up the environment in accordance with their ability, accustomed to a life of discipline began to get out of bed until towards the bed. In addition, it was also conditioned to perform prayers before and after doing the activity.
To apply the value of the character is to be done through simple things first and the parents surely have regulations as well as awarding examples of course performed by the parents.
However, character education will take place in vain, if it is not applied early on to children and everyday life. This is due to character education, more emphasis to customs done by children to do positive things where it later will be a character that made an impression and ingrained in the child.
Parents who have not been too stressed on character education and still tend to allow and let the child’s behavior because it assumes they are still small. This is certainly going to bring impact impact on cultivation of character education owned by the child.
For example, if the parents do not infuse character education at early stages, would be an increase in crime, suicide among teenagers, divorce, abortion, the habit of cheating among the students, the habit of stealing merchandise in the store among adolescents, and others. This is evidenced by the increasing numbers of cases of crime by teenagers each year according to data of the Central Bureau of Statistics Indonesia. The data showed an increase in terms of quantity from 2007 which recorded about 3100 people teenagers involved in the case of criminality, as well as in 2008 and 2009 that rose to 3,300 and around 4,200 teenagers. (Badan Pusat Statistik Indonesia, 2010 in https://psikologiforensik.com/2015/01/30/ada-what-in-reverse-crime-juvenile-indonesia).
Not only in terms of quantity, the report of the Badan Pusat Statistik also make it clear that acts of crime committed by teenagers also improved in quality. Where teenage delinquency conducted at first it was just a brawl or fight behaviours between friends, and now developing as acts of criminality such as theft, rape, the use of drugs to murder.
Cases of teenagers who were lively preached at the moment is the behavior of teenagers in a motorcycle gang. According to the data Neta S Pane as the Chairman Presidium of Indonesia Police Watch (IPW) throughout the year 2014 there were 38 cases of violence carried out by members of a motorcycle gang, which resulted in 28 people were killed and 24 people were injured (in https://psikologiforensik.com/2015/01/30/ada-what-in-reverse-crime-juvenile-indonesia).
Thus the importance of character education instilled from an early age so that will minimize negative behavior comitted by teens.
CONCLUSIONS AND SUGGESTIONS
Parents have an important role in the formation of character education for children.This is because the family is the main and most educational influence in the formation of character. It is therefore necessary for proper way of nurturing and educating children so that it formed a strong character in the child to be brought up until he was an adult.
- In parenting parents surely also consider about the level of child development.
- Early childhood is an impersonator who hand-picked so should parents need to keep any behavior, because children will mimic their parents.
- Parenting applied by parents also should be tailored to the situation and condition of the child at the time. There are times when parents behave democratically, there are times when parents also be authoritarian, but also there are times when parents are permissive.
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